In any one's life there are people that bring out the best in you and there are people that bring out the worst in you. Are you surrounding yourself with people that bring out the best in you? That help create the best version of yourself?
When I first moved out of my parents house and moved to Utah I found exactly the opposite of what I had expected. I started dating a guy who was very controlling and seemed to always bring out the worst in me. Yet, I couldn't seem to find the confidence to walk away.
I remember we could be doing something as simple as sitting and watching TV and a pretty girl could come on the TV and I was told everything about myself that didn't make me as pretty as this girl on TV. And it just seemed to escalate from there. I was so lost as to who I was at the point that I met him, that I allowed him to shape who I was. I became very self conscious about every part of me and everything I did. I started working out a ton. I could spend hour after hour at the gym working out, in hopes that this man would someday see a glimpse of something pretty in me, so I didn't have to listen to how pretty I wasn't, but maybe I could hear a compliment.
This man created the worst version of me. It seems like I could not recover from him, even long after I finally found the courage to leave him. Almost as if I couldn't move away from this person he had created in me. I continued to surround myself with people who brought out that same person in me.
It took a long time for me to realize that the people that you surround yourself directly affect your own self worth. Find people who make you want to become better, not because they don't like the person you are but because you are striving for a better self worth, everyday. They promote happiness within yourself.
Look at the people around you, the relationships you have with people, your significant other, do they make you want to be a better person. Do they bring you up, or bring you down. Are you becoming the best version of yourself. Think about your actions or changes that you want to make in your life and see if there is a direct connection to the way people are treating you. Become better because you want to better, not because you are not what people expect you to be.
